Just a quick thought as we embark into the new year...
I know you've heard this quote before but have you ever really tried it? What better time than the start of a new year to embrace a new mantra!
From a young age, my dad instilled in me to never say, “I can’t.” Not in a drill sergeant way but in a loving, never-wanting-his-daughter-to-doubt-her-potential way. I never realized how his “no can’t” policy really stuck with me throughout my life until it hit me out of the blue one day. I was having a slight meltdown about a new project that I was working on. I was frustrated that it wasn’t turning out the way I envisioned and everything that could go wrong did go wrong. I let my stress out through some self-pity tears and I heard myself utter the words, “I can’t do this.” Literally, right after I said that, I cringed a little. Did I really just say that? I had just managed to put myself in check.
For me, the “No can’t” policy has been not only verbal but mental as well. I feel that by maintaining this mantra, it has helped with self-doubt. Of course I have those moments of “What if this?” and “What if that?” but I try to quickly move forward, shaking the doubt off in the process. If something isn’t working, I tend to ask myself, “This isn’t working. What can I do to make it work?” rather than, “This isn’t working, I can’t do this."...of course I have moments of weakness like mentioned above, after all, I'm unfortunately only human. :)
I am by no means a licensed therapist or counselor, just a twenty-something…ok, late twenty-something that is trying to navigate through this maze called life and this other maze called my mind. Little sayings and words of advice from our elders growing up can have a resounding affect on us whether we realize it or not. Take a minute to recall those precious anecdotes that may have stayed with you, in mind or in heart, guiding you through life. Thanks, Dad.♥
For further reading about this topic, this article from Lifehack is a great, quick-read: "Don't Say It: How to Get Can't Out of Your Vocabulary"